Thursday, November 12, 2009

How to Choose your Life Partner

This is an article which one of my cousin had sent has helped me...hope it helps you too...

A successful relationship requires communication and problem-solving skills, the ability to manage your own emotions, patience, selflessness.

If you are like me, no one ever sat you down and instructed you on how to choose a life partner. Yet, this is one of the most critical decisions we will ever make in life – with potentially huge repercussions for a less-than-ideal choice. A long-term relationship can be one of the most joyous and fulfilling experiences life has to offer. Although you may not have learned it from your mother, here is what you need to know to choose the life partner who is right for you.

Consider qualities that are important to you

First, become familiar with the qualities that you desire in a partner. It doesn’t matter what they are – what matters is that you are consciously aware of what is important to you. Take some time to reflect, write a list if it helps you, and keep at it until you are clear about what you want. Two qualities you might seriously consider are honesty and openness/flexibility. You need to be able to trust your partner to be straight up with you – about money, preferences, things they are doing, people they are spending time with. In addition, you will want to choose someone who is open to examining themselves, willing to take responsibility for their own behavior, and able to move with the ebbs and flows of life.

Remember these qualities when you are dating

Now that you have developed a list, have the wisdom to use it. We all know how easily we are sidetracked by sexual attraction, the blush of a new romance, relationship melodrama. If what you want is a partner for life, forget romance and be logical and realistic. As you are getting to know your potential partner, take some time to sit by yourself and determine if he or she possesses the qualities you desire. If so, happily continue dating. If not, find the strength within yourself to stay aligned with what you really want, say a kind goodbye, and move on. Abandon hope that things will change in the future. Base your decision on what you are certain of, which is what you know to be true now.

Discuss the big issues

I find myself in disbelief when I hear of newly married couples discovering monumental differences on some of the most essential life choices. Spare yourself this challenge by initiating open discussions about children (if, when, how many), child-rearing, money, work, religion, where to live, and relationships with extended family. The purpose of these discussions is to uncover any fundamental differences between you so you can decide if you want to continue the relationship. Do the research thoroughly, but also realize that priorities and preferences have a way of changing over time. This is why openness and flexibility are important. Learn all you can about your potential mate, and have the courage to walk away if the fit is not right for you.

Find a good friend

Sharing your life with the right partner is a joy. The intensity of the initial attraction will subside, so make sure that the friendship is strong. Do you have common interests? Is your conversation enjoyable and stimulating? Would you choose to spend a free day with this person? If your answer is “yes” to these questions, you have in place an important element that can make your relationship stand the test of time.

Find a lover

You really want the sexual part of your relationship to work, as stumbling in this area can cause great conflict and dissatisfaction. Appetites will change – often once children arrive or hormones begin to dwindle. Start off with sexual compatibility, and you are building a strong foundation now and for the future.

Don’t think that love, or sexual attraction, is enough

How often have you heard, “But I love him?” A long-term relationship involves so much more than love. A successful relationship requires communication and problem-solving skills, the ability to manage your own emotions, patience, selflessness. You end up dealing with child-rearing, balance between work and home life, crises that inevitably arise. Love and sexual attraction are beautiful expressions, but they are not enough for choosing a life partner.

Determine if you can solve problems together

Notice how you disagree, and how you recover from disagreements. If you or your partner defend your own positions, you will have difficulty coming to a resolution. The need to be right limits good communication. Look for, and be, someone who speaks respectfully and is open to other points of view.

Decide if you can accept your potential partner’s idiosyncrasies

We all have them. Ways of being, things we do, that are our personalities and quirks. Take the blinders off, and see with your eyes wide open to determine if the person you are considering is someone you can actually live with on a daily basis. Reflect on their energy level, preference for time alone, desire for social interaction, ways of handling stress, and level of cleanliness. Don’t be caught by the trap of hoping they will change, and don’t fool yourself into believing that something that bothers you now won’t continue to fester over time. People do change, but there is no guarantee. Contemplate within yourself to see if you can accept your potential mate as is.

Know your dealbreakers

Only you can know your bottom line. You deserve to be with someone who is truly interested in making your relationship thrive. If you are mistreated or disrespected in any way, think twice before moving forward. Take very seriously problems such as addiction, large debt, uncontrollable emotions, or severe mental illness. You can have tremendous compassion for people with these issues, but the likelihood of being in a satisfying relationship with them is negligible.

Be an amazing partner

While you are looking, use your time wisely. Reflect within yourself to become aware of the difficulties you might contribute to a relationship. Are you too clingy or afraid of getting close? Are you overly passive or controlling? Do you need to get your own life on track in some important way? Are you attracting, and choosing, people who aren’t right for you? Do you have annoying habits? Are you a grownup, able to make your relationship with a partner a priority over your immediate family? Be happy in your own life, and you will effortlessly bring happiness to others.

In choosing your partner, I’m inviting you to use your head as well as your heart. When you do, you are opening yourself to the possibility for the deepest intimacy and celebration of life. Allow your heart to expand in every direction, and enjoy the journey!

Friday, November 6, 2009

Circle of Unemployment which we create in animation Industry

With every pirated animation movie we watch on a DVD or a VCD ...We are killing thousands of animation jobs which are existing in the market. Its a circle of unemployment which we are creating and it all happens for saving some few hundreds...

Please go thru the image.

Monday, November 2, 2009

How to converse during a heated argument with your loved ones..

I felt and found out that over a period of time and talk with various people...

Conversations between committed and married couples go fine but the actual trick and smartness lies in how to tackle heated conversations and how to put across your personal thoughts to the other person. During this, both the people would like to
put across their thoughts as early as possible and would be tempted to say or react to the words what the other is saying, hence resulting in cutting the flow of the other person in the middle

the analysis and the reasoning process starts in the mind of the listening person as soon as the conversation is half way or a quarter way through.

The person who is listening to his/her soul mate would be eagerly waiting for the chance to say as soon as possible..

To me, these things happen not only to the people who are in a relationship or who are married happens to many teenage son's and daughter's. They experience the same thing in conversation or an heated discussion with either their mom or dad or sis or bro...

Heated conversations should be handled with a lot of care coz things go wrong and any person might loose the temper and say words which shouldn't have been told...which might create a lot of hurt and scar for a long experience says..though we know all these things theoretically we as human beings fail to execute it..and god know's y..?

i have been thinking about it for quite sometime...and one solution i felt which many of us may know or may not know is...

Heated conversations..or angry discussions should contain one ingredient and that is


both the lawyers are given equal amount of chances and ample amount of time to tell what they feel and think about their client...and when one lawyer is mentioning the point...the other sits back and listen's to what he is saying...makes notes and prepares the strategy...

unlike the scene in the court..couples or conversations between the loved ones is not abt winning or loosing...its about putting your thoughts across...and the decision is a lot mutual...and taken in the interest of both..but both may have to compromise on many aspects or happily agree to reach to that mutual arrangement.

so while discussing or sorting issues...the thing which we should be avoiding is interfering between the conversation ....let the others speak their part and then put across what is to be said from your side. Its a lesson i have learnt for good over the period of time and am writing it so that 2morrow if i forget it...i can read it back and get the the due course of time if my thoughts help anyone i would be happy...

One more thing which i have seen working for me, as everyone says....focus on the solution and not the problem and it will be solved...

i used to believe these words but dint felt it to believe whole heart because i never saw it happening to me.

Since yesterday night i was thinking abt a problem and till today morning i was still thinking about the pain which i will have to undergo because of that,no single second i kept aside my pain and focussed on the ways i which i can resolve it...

today morning when i was driving my bike..i got tired of thinking abt the problem...and i left it...that was the time when solution struck my mind...and i was astonished to feel the authenticity of the sentence which is said by many successful people...

Focus on the solution and not the problem...and everything will be solved...

the more you believe it...the more it works for u....

i think...thats all for world...

i would appreciate comments and suggestions on this post...please write any other solutions which u have found during ur life experiences....

Sunday, November 1, 2009



This is a true story that happened in Japan.

In order to renovate the house, someone in Japan breaks open the wall. Japanese houses normally have a hollow space between the wooden walls. When tearing down the walls, he found that there was a lizard stuck there because a nail from outside hammered into one of its feet. He sees this, feels pity, and at the same time curious, as when he checked the nail, it was nailed 10 years ago when the house was first built. What happened? The lizard has survived in such position for 10 years!!!!!!!!!!

In a dark wall partition for 10 years without moving, it is impossible and mind-boggling. Then he wondered how this lizard survived for 10 years!!! Without moving a single step--since its foot was nailed! So he stopped his work and observed the lizard, what it has been doing, and what and how it has been eating.

Later, not knowing from where it came appears another lizard, with food in its mouth. Ah! He was stunned and touched deeply. For the lizard That was stuck by nail, another lizard has been feeding it for the past 10 years...

Imagine? it has been doing that untiringly for 10 long years, without giving up hope on its partner.

Think, will u do that to your partner?

Imagine what a small creature can do that a creature blessed with a brilliant mind can't.

As information and communication technology advances, our access to information becomes faster and faster. But the Distance between human beings . . . is it getting closer as well?

Please never abandon your loved ones

Never Say U R Busy When They Really Need You ...

You May Have The Entire World At Your Feet.....
But You Might Be The Only World To Them....

A Moment of negligence might break the very heart which loves you thru all odds..

Before you say something just remember…..
It takes a moment to Break but an entire life to make...

To Live Use Heart and to Survive use Brains.

Then Life would be a paradise Unfurling only Love Joy and Happiness.....